Women and Safety
Information given at a safety workshop by Pat Malone, who has been a
bodyguard for Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester Stallone. He works for the FBI,
and teaches police officers and Navy SEALS hand to hand combat. This man
has seen it all, and knows a lot. His focus - HOW TO AVOID BEING THE VICTIM
OF A VIOLENT CRIME.
Three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of violence:
- Lack of awareness - You MUST know where you are & what's going on
- Body language - Keep your head up, swing your arms, stand straight up.
- Wrong place, wrong time - Avoid walking alone in an alley, or driving
in a bad neighborhood at night.
Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working,
etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.). DON'T
DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity
for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you
where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
- Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat. Check under the car as well.
- If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
- Look at the car parked on the drivers' side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,
you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman
to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
Always take the elevator instead of the stairs.
- Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already on there.
- Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator, be near the front,
by the doors, ready to get off or on.
- If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and the Boogie Man gets
on at the 22nd, get off when he gets on.
If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS run!
POLICE only make 4 of 10 shots when they are in range of 3-9 feet. This
is due to stress. The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in
100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
Looks can be deceiving.
- Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man,
who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with
a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his
vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
- Pat Malone tells the story of his daughter, who came out of the mall
and was walking to her car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of her.
Then she saw a police car come towards her with 2 cops, and they said hello.
She also noticed that all 8 handicap spots in the area were empty. As she
neared her car she saw a man a few rows over calling to her, for help. He
wanted her to close his passenger side door. He was sitting in the drivers'
side, and said he was handicap. He continued calling, until she turned and
headed back to the mall, and then he began cursing at her. She wondered why
he didn't ask the 2 older ladies, or the policeman for help, and why he was
not parked in any of the empty handicap spots. As she got back to the mall,
two male friends of hers were exiting, and as she told them the story, and
turned to point at the car, a male was getting out of the back seat into
the front, and the car sped away. DON'T GET CAUGHT IN THIS TRAP.
Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
- REACT IMMEDIATELY: If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking
you to an abandoned area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA.
- If you are driving, react immediately in the situation, and crash your
car while still going 5 MPH
- If he's driving, find the right time, and stick your fingers in his
eyes. He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge him.
It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT.
- RESIST - Don't go along with him. Run, if you are able. Scream.
- DON'T EVER GIVE UP!
Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or
in dark areas.
GET A CELL PHONE - There are packages for $19.95 a month that allow you
to program only 911 into the dialing out program.
- If your car breaks down: If you have a cell phone call for help, and
lock your doors.
- Keep a blanket, a pair of warm clothes and boots, and a flashlight in
your car for emergencies.
- If you donít have a cell phone.
- And it's noon on a business day, you MAY want to put your hazards on
and walk to safety.
- And it's 2 a.m.: put on your warm clothes, and walk to a lighted area.
- You are a perfect target if you are sitting in your car broken down.
- Predators search the highways for easy targets.
- And you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm
clothes) and go to some bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicle. It will
be cold, and uncomfortable, but you DO NOT want to stay in your car.
Physical defenses that can be used against the violent predator:
- The eyes are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there, this
may be your only window of opportunity.
- The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip,
AND HAVE THE STRENGTH to cut off his breath.
- The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very vulnerable, and
a swift kick here will take anyone down.
If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you
find someone following/chasing you:
- Scream "FIRE!", and not "help". People don't want to get involved when
people yell "help", but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy.
- Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it, like ring
around the rosie.
- Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under there, there
are tons of things to hold on to, and he will not be able to get you out,
and will not come under for you (most likely). Usually they give up by this
- The catch here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE GETTING UNDER THE CAR. You
must have a plan (he will have one); know if you will be going on your back,
front, from the side or back of the car. It must be practiced.
Never let yourself be a "closer" in any type of business such as a bar,
store, restaurant, or gas station.